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Bereavement Newsletter

 Coping With Change

Volume 1 Issue 1



  We get used to the way things are, and then they shift. We lose loved ones unexpectedly or due to chronic illness. This change can be devastating, unsettling and can throw us for a loop.

 As soon as something as strong as grieving a loved one nudges us out of our regular routine, or challenges our understanding of how the world works and where we fit into it, we are likely to experience a deluge of feelings, including fear, anxiety, overwhelm, loneliness, distraction or denial.

 In turn, those feelings can manifest in to negative behavior. You may act out with aggressive or passive-aggressive communication. You may push yourself to overwork or take the opposite approach and procrastinate, avoiding all that's on your plate.

Your self-care may suffer. You may reach for unhealthy substances or behaviors, get less sleep, skip meals or overindulge. You might cut yourself off from others or spend time with people who have unhealthy habits.


The Impact

Stress from both positive and negative change can have immediate and long-term effects. Stress inhibits digestion and absorption of nutrients, impairs your body's ability to ward off germs, can cause insomnia and worsen pre-existing health conditions. If you are also engaging in unhealthy behaviors and poor self-care, you're at an even higher risk for illness or injury.

Mental abilities can be affected, as well. When you're preoccupied about the future, it's much harder to concentrate and/or apply your brainpower to what's in front of you.

Great leaders are admired for their serenity and confidence in the face of uncertainty. For many of us, though, at such times, serenity is far from our reach. Instead, emotions are close to the surface and can flare up at inopportune times. Whether you lash out, cry or pound on your desk, it's uncomfortable to feel out of control.

Strategies for Coping with Change

Take care of your body. Eat well, sleep well, exercise to discharge stress and refrain from harmful habits, such as smoking, excessive drinking, or recreational drugs. See your doctor for a physical and appropriate medication management.

Take care of your mindStay in the present by practicing deep breathing and/or meditation, or writing in a journal. Challenge your negative thinking by slowing down, taking your time to remember important dates and events. Give yourself a break and try to keep things in perspective.

Express your emotions in healthy ways. Share them with people you trust, family, friends or a therapist. Even vent negative feelings by pounding on a pillow, writing in a journal, or drawing.

Treat others well. Strengthen your good relationships so you can draw on their support, and work at your daily challenges in moderation, so they don't add to your stress.

Be proactive. Prepare the best you can for the changes that come with grief, allow others to help you with daily challenges, finances, grocery shopping, even cooking. Think back to other challenges you've come through and remind yourself that everything will work out okay this time as well,with some extra support, understanding and encouragement from a therapist (Bereavement Counselor), friends, family and/or a grief support group.

Into every life change will come, but its lasting impact doesn't have to cripple you.

Don't be afraid to ask for help. Changes in grieving and healing also have a way of opening new and rewarding doors. Bottom line, let change be the catalyst for better self-care, which will feed you in all times, stable and uncertain.


Karen L. Goldman, LMHC, BCPC 198 Davis Avenue, Staten Island, NY 10310

347.850.2322 / 718.226.6451

website: www.Karengoldmansitherapy.com email: [email protected] 


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